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Modeling

“Do as I say, not as I do.”

 

That sentiment is rarely well received. The context of it usually seems like an excuse for willingly exhibiting poor behavior. When a parent models that concept to a child, the child does not usually take the higher road.

 

Kids learn by observing and hearing, and they imitate… for better or worse.

 

When a parent is trying to model positive behavior, but messes up, forgiveness can be asked and the tone is set for doing what is right the next time. That, in and of itself, is good behavior to model.

 

Christian parents wanting to instill godly values and behavior in their children need to remember to model what is desired. Teaching Christian principles is key, and so is practicing them, as this demonstrates the principles’ values.

 

Teaching and practicing are important keys on a parents’ key chain.

 

Jesus taught and practiced God’s ways. He was our perfect model.

 

We are not perfect. When we disobey God, we need to also model asking for forgiveness and, then, demonstrate a change in behavior. This can be impactful when we do not act kindly toward our children. Children learn much about forgiveness, compassion, and mercy when parents ask forgiveness.

 

It is beautiful to grow with our children in Christlikeness. Each stage of our lives allows us to grow deeper in our understanding and implementation of God’s truths. In a family, there is built in encouragement and accountability when growing together in the Lord. Praying for each other as you grow in godliness binds you together in a special way.

 

If we want our children to take God seriously, we ought to demonstrate that we are serious about God.

 

Then we can say, “Do as God says. I’m striving to, too!”