Most of us have a knee-jerk reaction when things suddenly don’t go our own way.
Our reaction could be subtle or it could simmer or it could be explosive.
In moments of unexpected annoyance with someone, it can be hard to remember that “a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1 NIV).
We might have to put forth extra effort to reign in our words or tone. Each of us is a work in progress. Thankfully, we serve an amazing God who is able, and willing, to work in us. When we submit to our heavenly Father and allow the Holy Spirit to grow us, the evidence of communion with Jesus will show.
Relating to others when we are focused on ourselves can sometimes bring out the rougher parts of our character. Sadly, we often go into this ‘default’ mode with our family.
Outside of our home we might display our smooth, shiny side. Then back at home, we might instinctively turn over to the rough side that can rub people the wrong way. Sometimes we may excuse it with the thought, “Home is the place I can be myself and know I’m loved anyway.”
But is that reasoning really okay? When we think about it related to our identity as a Christ follower, should we be content caving in to our weaknesses?
When we’re at home and recognize this, it’s worth considering:
Do we give our family the selfish version of ourselves?
Do we lash out rather than offer respect and love?
Do we realize that angry outbursts misrepresent God’s goodness?
God’s Word tells us to be “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry” (James 1:19b NIV, letter Q in Do LAPS! Volume 2). Why does this matter? “Because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires” (verse 20).
We are to “pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart” (2 Timothy 22:2 NIV). As we remain connected to Christ, he will bear fruit in us (John 15:4), such as “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control” (Galatians 5:22b-23a ESV).
Let’s remember to treat our family members in ways that show God’s character, as an extension of honoring him.
Filling up our mind and heart with God’s truths and love make it easier to give those away to others.
Work through a Heart Training book and see how it helps!